Roadblocks to effectiveness include
1- lack of skill needed in the situation. Asses what is needed and practice using the skill to increase your comfort and confidence.
2 - worry thoughts. Test worries against the facts, if justified find ways to change to ease the worry, if unjustified challenge thinking errors.
3- emotions. Dysregulated emotions can pop up and surprise us or build over time and paralyze. Use self care to decrease the likelihood of dystegulation overall, validate how difficult the situation is for you and commit to effectively experience or block emotions as needed.
4- indecision. If you don’t know what you want or feel unworthy to say no, step back and focus on your value and connects with wants and desires in the moment and in the long term.
5- the environment can’t be changed. Sometimes we don’t have the power or right to ask or say no to others i.e., the boss, the policy, our values indicate its not appropriate. Sometimes we have the power and the right but the timing is bad or others involved aren’t flexible. Reinforce your own skillful approach to communication and problem solving then go back to the drawing board, learn from the experience and redraft your request into one that fits the environment.